One frustrated mom asked, “How I stop my kids’ fighting? It’s driving me crazy!”
Ooooh, been there, done that, felt that. I know, it can be enormously frustrating. I think what made me craziest was the noise level–just having to listen to it.
Even handling it perfectly (and how would that be?) won’t make it go away entirely. Kids are learning how to relate to each other and will practice with their siblings.
As we enter this discussion on sibling squabbles, ask yourself this: “What am I most reacting to?” Is the answer:
#1 The noise?
#2 The issues at hand, which you feel you must intervene in (and should you–really–or must they work it out themselves?)
#3 The need to protect one child from another, physically or from wounding words?
Kids pick at each other for all kinds of reasons and many do require adult intervention (AKA refereeing). But for this first post on kids’ fighting, let’s examine your own attitude as a parent, as I was forced to examine mine.
Is it possible that your interventions in kids’ fighting sometimes make things worse? Consider your:
(CLICK to cont. for 6 Ways parent attitudes can affect kids’ fighting…)